EP 151: How to Repair a Relationship After a Conflict (The Brain Science Behind It)
Why do some couples grow closer after a fight while others slowly drift apart? In this episode, Amanda shares a real moment from her own relationship and then breaks down what's actually happening in your brain in the minutes after conflict.
Key Takeaways:
- Understand what a rupture and repair cycle looks like
- The Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry frames rupture and repair as essential to real connection, and ties repeated unrepaired ruptures to mistrust, resentment, and distorted beliefs about the relationship or yourself.
- How a rupture can knock both people out of a regulated state, and repair is what brings connection and co-regulation back.
- Repair isn't one-size-fits-all. Knowing what your partner actually needs to feel repaired matters more than following a script.
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