When it comes to making meaningful changes in life, we often have to go through a cleaning and decluttering process. Just like we take time to purge our home of old, broken or no longer used items, so it goes with changing our mindset.

While there are many things in life that we find ourselves unable to control, our mind is not one of them. As meaningful human beings, we have the power to direct our thoughts, emotions, feelings, and actions. This has never been more important to understand than right now, in the midst of a world pandemic, the likes of which most of us have never experienced before.

We Can't Control Our Circumstances

We’ve all become quickly aware that the circumstances surrounding us are not within our control. We can no more change the path of an invisible virus than we can control how those around us handle the situation. But you can control your thoughts and manage your emotions in a healthy way in spite of the worry, fear and anxiety that is all around ...

You’ve done it.

You’ve hit your stride and business is booming. You can barely remember what free time looked or felt like, but you’re ok with that.

If you’ve struggled with growing your business, this can feel like a welcome time of growth and opportunity. But eventually, you will need to get "picky" about your opportunities so that you can provide the best service. Now, it’s you choosing who fits your mission the best, instead of the other way around.

But how do you choose between competing opportunities? While it’s tempting to pick the business that will pay the most, that is only the tip of the iceberg.

I’m here to help you with a simple way to evaluate your opportunities in order to be the most successful.

First and foremost, it’s important that you are taking on work that exceeds your own terms of agreement. What goes into your terms? Consider how much time, energy, resources, money and sanity it will take to get the job done!

Will the time you need to spe...

Do you lack motivation?

When things are going well and you‘re on a roll knocking down obstacles and taking home successes, it’s easy to find motivation.

But what happens when things slow down and you’re starting to feel uninspired? When you haven’t had a new “win” in a while, it can be difficult to put in the effort to get the ball rolling again.

Today I want to talk about how to get and sustain motivation in six easy steps. With a little effort, I’m confident you can gain a motivated spirit in no time.

1. Ambition

High performers are full of ambition. That desire for something more is not always easy to come by. Sure, at one time you were probably brimming with it! But for some reason or another, you now find yourself searching for that feeling of inspiration.

Allow yourself to dream about your wants, goals and passions again! What are your big-picture dreams?

2. Expectancy

To sustain motivation, it’s important to live in a state of expectancy. High Performer...

As a high-performance coach, my job is to guide people to success. While everyone’s end goal is unique, we can all take a similar approach in finding our own success.

So what does that look like?

First, it’s important to note that high performers enter into tasks with the expectation of success. They don’t set out to succeed just “hoping” to do a good job. No, they set out to reach their goal each and every time!

Now, this doesn't mean that they can't accept failure. High-performers just know that failure is an opportunity for learning.

To be successful, it’s important to make it a “must,” not just a preference. Here is how you can make success a must.

1. Associate your identity with doing well.

Researchers have found that high performers associate their identity with doing well. They have positive self-talk that identifies them as successful. They psych themselves up to be successful before they even start a task!

Does that mean they never get anxious, espe...

“I don't have time.”

“It's too much.”

“It's too risky.”

Do any of these sound familiar? At one time or another, you’ve probably used one of these excuses. Whether it’s putting off a difficult task that is one of many on your journey to success or it's not diving into something you know you should do, we are all guilty of making excuses.

Where are some of the most common areas we catch ourselves making excuses?

One of the top reasons we make excuses is because we are afraid to be embarrassed and we are afraid to fail. We make an excuse not to step out with boldness because we are afraid of what others will say or think about us. Many of our fears about others are often unfounded. We think our friends and families have thoughts about us that aren’t even real or that they will say things that they’ve actually never said before!

It’s also common to make excuses because we are afraid that we will neglect our personal responsibilities, like being a parent. We feel we can’t ...

As a High-Performance coach, I deal with clients who tell me all the time that one of the biggest obstacles to greater success is distraction. They talk about how their attention gets pulled in so many directions and that they are easily distracted whenever they have to step out of their zone of genius.

Is this you?

The definition of distraction is “a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else.” While the explanation of what a distraction is remains the same for everyone, what distracts us differs greatly from person to person.

We can be distracted by too much noise, too little noise, large crowds, being alone, and let’s not forget our devices. With plenty of social media to keep us occupied in all the wrong ways, we are used to constant mental stimulation.

As business owners, we can sometimes be distracted by keeping up with our clients, tech issues, product problems, or in other ways. We can even allow ourselves to become distracted on pu...

Everybody wants success. And wanting success isn’t a bad thing, but sometimes we forget that the little decisions we make today are either helping or hurting our chances for success in the long run.

Think about it...if you keep doing the same thing every day but wanting different results, it's not going to happen! It's time to change your habits. While change is uncomfortable, you can’t expect new results if you keep doing the same thing, day in and day out.

It sounds easy, but I’ll be the first to admit that changing habits is difficult. After all, habits are almost mindless–– we do them without thinking! Habits are powerful but they can be reshaped if we take time to learn about why we do them and then become intentional about change.

Here are a few ways to start changing your habits so you find the success you want.

1. Find clarity.

People often think that they lack motivation when it comes to achieving their goals. “I just need to try harder” is a common thought. I...

When it comes to finding success and becoming a high-performer, it often comes down to one thing: finding clarity. Not having clarity can prove to be a huge hindrance to your success. It's like going on a trip without a destination in mind. It may feel freeing and fun at first, but eventually, you'll be worn out from driving in circles and wasting your time.

Best-Selling Author Steven Maraboli once said, “A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success.”

I don't want you putting the brakes on your progress, so if you don't have clarity about who you are or where you're going in life, it's time to get clear on where you're headed before you push down on that accelerator.

What is clarity?

Finding clarity can easily be thought of as having a "knowing" about the direction you want to go in major life areas such as: work, relationships, health, finances, and more! Clarity can look different for everyone, but most successful people find themselves looking for...

Whenever I begin coaching a client, I spend time trying to learn as much as I can about them. I try to understand the gap between who they are and what they do now and who they want to be and what they want to do in the future.

One way I dig in is to ask my clients about their strengths and weaknesses. I do this for two reasons: to see which they can naturally describe to me (strengths or weaknesses) and to see how accurate they are when they take a strengths assessment -- how self-aware is my client?

More times than not, my clients are able to describe their weaknesses in more detail and have to pause and think about their strengths, only coming up with maybe two or three strengths because I push for an answer. I used to be surprised at the fact that they could describe their weaknesses in a lot of detail yet not be familiar with their giftings. But now I expect it.

The definition of a strength is “anything that produces near-perfect performance consistently and effortless...

Have you ever heard of the term "buffering?" This term was first introduced to me from the creator of The Life Coach School, Brooke Castillo. It's a term I use with my clients often because it is something every single human experiences.

Buffering is when you lessen or moderate the impact of something. So when humans buffer, we are trying to distract ourselves or to feel good about a not so good situation. Some ways we buffer can be social media scrolling, overeating, overdrinking, or overworking. Basically anything you can overdo is usually a form of buffering.

Buffering can also look like good things on the outside but if the motive is to avoid reality or lessen the pain, it is still considered buffering. Activities like volunteering or exercising may seem good at the time, but if you're overdoing it and keeping yourself busy as a means to avoid suffering, that too is buffering. Buffering makes us feel better for a short time or it makes us feel nothing at all. That's why we ...